I'm no Picasso

Do you know what? I really don’t know. I don’t have enough of a pulse on things to really answer this. I do know that my co-teachers (who are my general source of information about things like this) were saying a couple of months ago that unmarried couples living together is more common these days, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s more acceptable. My coworkers are pretty balanced (from my perspective) people, who don’t really care to make judgements about what other people are doing to begin with. You’re always going to have people who mind other people’s business for them. Hell, growing up in the community I did, I would’ve told you when I was younger that unmarried couples living together wasn’t acceptable in American society. Because in my slice of American society, it wasn’t.

Their reasoning was that more and more young people are moving away from their families to find jobs, so at some point it becomes more financially reasonable for a young couple to share housing, and they were pretty matter-of-fact about it. The same is true of what Busan’s coworkers are constantly suggesting to him about us — that since we both live away from our families in our own places, it makes more sense for us to share a place and save money.

So. That’s what I know.

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I am. I’ve never been one to plan on the long-term, in the sense of actually relying on it — shit changes. But right now, I’m happy here. And I see myself being happy here for a long time. I have a job I love, financial security, and good people. I don’t know that there’s any other reason anyone would ever need to stay anywhere. Having all three of those things at the same time is a pretty big blessing that I’m smart enough to recognize. So, even though plans might change in the future, I’m not about to let my chance to stay here and to stay happy here slip through my hands due to a lack of planning.

Although I love my job, watching what’s gone on with SMOE and GEPIK makes me wary of just sitting back and waiting for the moment when it might disappear, but beyond that, I also don’t want to become stagnant. Right now I don’t need or want more, or something different, but I’m also not so good at sitting still. I need things to work on. And although my job is still challenging on a daily basis, and I’m still learning a lot, I can see the time on the horizon when it’s not as challenging as I’d like for it to be anymore. So it’s time to start preparing for the next challenge. The challenge for right now is Korean. And, on a more personal front, learning how to be someone’s partner and starting to imagine living a life with another person, which is something I never really considered before. And, for the moment, it’s keeping me pretty occupied. We will see what comes next.

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Goodness. You musta got confused for a minute, if you think I or any other fucker is controlling Busan.

I’m getting the impression someone’s having a hard time understanding our relationship. It’s okay — I’ll let Busan’s other top female explain it to you.

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Alright, you know what? I’m really glad you decided to start shit. Because the internet is a cunty place at the moment and, frankly, I need to blow off some steam. So listen up Suzie Q (and the rest of you females on the internet who like to come crawling out from under rocks every time I so much as allude to Busan and I having a fight, to tell me how much I don’t deserve him, and so on and so forth). I know I make Busan sound like the fucking bee’s knees on this blog, and that’s because he fucking is. Whether I’m mad at him or not, I know he is. And I get why you would want to defend him. But let me explain something to you: Busan is with me because I am me. And if I am different from you, he is with me and not you, because what he digs is me. And not you.

Busan’s favorite pet name for me, as I’ve mentioned a few times before, is 짜증쟁이. Because he feels like I’m beating him into a deep, deep hole of depression every time I rant about something? No. Because he thinks it’s funny as fuck. Nothing pleases Busan down to the core of his very soul like watching me tear off on a rant about some small thing or another, even if that thing is him. He likes to aggravate me intentionally just so he can get this reaction, in fact. And I dare say he more than finds it funny — I think it may even turn him on, a bit.

So I understand that you, little precious Miss Sunshine, think that this poor little defenseless man would be so much better off if I wore lace doily socks and giggled and called him 오빠 or whatever the fuck it is you imagine yourself doing in my place, but there’s one small fact you’re overlooking: This man chose me. And he continues to choose me, every single fucking morning he wakes up on this earth. And he knows who I am. Far better than you will ever have the chance to.

If you think these facts somehow mean that we should be the only couple on Earth who never have a fight, or else there’s something fundamentally wrong with one or both of us, or us as a couple, then you can get fucked. Frankly. Because we work. And we work shit out. On equal terms.

Are we clear?

So long!

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That’s cute, Anon. I like the way you somehow found a way to make a perfectly normal question into something annoying.

I’d have to ask you to clarify, which Korean reaction to Jasmine Lee? I don’t think the entire country is unified on that front. I assume what you mean is the reaction of the opposing party accusing her of having a rather expensive special interest agenda for immigrants and children of immigrant/half immigrant families.

My reaction to that is that it’s irrational, xenophobic and selfish, and it’s also a very clever ploy that many politicians use, to grab hold of her perceived outsider status (by some) to gain support against her by claiming it’s a threat to a majority way of life. If you’ll recall, one of those favorite black people of mine, Barack Obama, has been continuously undergoing the exact same reaction back in the United States. By some Americans — not all. And of course, that is repulsive as well.

Does that bother you, too? Or is it only Filipinos you care about?

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